Sex at menopause

Every woman faces a stage in life when (again) all hormones change and many areas of life are affected or disrupted. Sex is one of the things that tend to have a sometimes radical change, but that does not mean that sex is over, it just becomes different, and this can be good.

What happens at menopause is that the body begins to produce less estrogen and less testosterone, which lowers libido and makes arousal more difficult to achieve. Those moments of "mmm .. That looks very rich ... oops, I already got wet" decrease a lot, and it is simply the body's signal that the priority is no longer the reproductive function. Even sexual contact can take longer to warm the body and "get into the state", as the vagina begins to receive less blood supply, and therefore less lubrication. The clitoris, in turn, also receives less blood, leading to greater difficulty in having physical orgasms and making it less intense. However, all of this is manageable

When a woman manages to go through some of the common mental symptoms such as stress, anxiety, sleep changes, etc, She finds herself on the other side with even greater power than she imagined, and for many, this is accompanied by greater sexual pleasure due to various benefits. On the one hand, the fear of becoming pregnant disappears, and many times children, if any, are no longer a priority for care. Therefore, it is a space to be you, to leave behind any pre-existing need to fit in, to be for others, or to repress a part of yourself. That is why many women find a better post-menopausal sex life.

Some recommendations to follow:

* In case of vaginal dryness, you can use lubricants and lubricants, avoiding the use of soaps or hygiene products that dry out.

* Perform pelvic floor exercises to bring greater blood supply to the area and thus increase vaginal sensitivity and intensity of orgasm.

* If you have not, masturbate as a practice of self-knowledge, to be able to rediscover how your sensations and pleasure zones have changed. Take the time to re-connect with your body that is undergoing a process of transformation.

* Try toys if you haven't already, as a way to introduce new forms of pleasure and take the pressure off penetration.

* Avoid or reduce the consumption of alcohol and caffeine.

* When sleeping and if you can during the day, wear comfortable clothes that do not squeeze or heat too much. When sleeping, use soft sheets and keep the room in a cool and pleasant temperature.

* Finally, there are estrogen creams for the vaginal area that increase lubrication, as well as hormone replacement therapies. These are unnatural measures, but in case the symptoms are very difficult, they may be an option.

Again it is vitally important to have a communication with your partner, especially if he does not know what you are going through. This helps you not to go through the process on your own, and make him see that some things are changing, and that you may have new sexual needs or need to modify something in your sex life. Let us remember that any change and adaptation represents growth.