What is sexting, and why is it good for psyche?
You are in your house, thinking about that person that ignites the passion in every cell of your body, your inner fire rises and there is an uncontrollable desire to tell them how much you want them right now. You pick up your cell phone, open WhatsApp or any other messaging app, and send a burning voice message along with a photograph in your most sensual splendor. You have reached the fabulous world of sexting!
Sexting is an acronym for "sex" and "texting", referring to the sending of written messages, voice messages, photographs or videos of sexual content. What was previously known as "hotline" or "phone sex" has evolved along with the technology to connect people erotically around the world, and even more with the birth of applications like Snapchat that destroys messages after a while. It is estimated that 30% of the young population practices it.
According to surveys, a large number of people practice it for fun, to flirt and or to feel sexy. The benefit of sexting, according to sexologists, is a way to maintain a healthy, sexually active and emotionally intimate relationship. It generates anticipation of meeting in person and having a fiery and deep encounter. At the same time, you can restart a possibly boring or monotonous relationship. When someone dares to undress in front of a camera, the libido increases and the feeling of self-satisfaction grows, which generates a greater desire to connect sexually with their sex partner. This is known as physical self-validation, which is the healthy self-perception of yourself that makes you feel desired, that means that your self-esteem and self-confidence become greater. In short, it brings more passion to the relationship, makes it more interesting, dynamic, novel, anticipatory, proactive, fun, hot, and deep.
Especially in the case of being isolated or physically away, as in the case of distant working times, or quarantine, sexting can be an extremely valuable tool to maintain intimacy between people. Allow that connection to keep burning by having fun, being vulnerable, and generating sexual attraction.
Some important keys are:
Start with something simple, sending flirting messages, showing admiration or desire for your the other.
Do not send images the first time, make sure you create trust and then that you actually are in the right situation to receive them, to avoid sharing or showing the pictures to someone else.
Remember that raising the tone generates more anticipation, so take it easy and spark your creativity. There are many ways to be sexy! An erotic poem, a voice message with a deep or panting voice, an image of your legs, etc. The possibilities are endless.
Still, we must be careful with the phenomenon of sextorsion, commonly applied when sharing images are broadcast, and more so if the face of the person being shared appears. This usually happens when people (especially young) breaks up and takes revenge by publishing the content, which can go viral in no time. Fortunately, there are more and more public policies to protect privacy and to block those who commit this crime.
In summary, sexting, or distance sexual activity, according to the American Psychological Association, allows sexual life to remain active, and that sex is actually more satisfying, by opening new communication channels between people. That is more passionate and profound. So, if you haven't tried it, what are you waiting for?