Desire is good for our brain and libido.

Our brain doesn't know the difference between reality and imagination. When we have a strong sexual or romantic desire for someone we react in ways that usually end up not feeling good. Either we start to have fear of rejection or we decide to put that desire in a box that we choose not to open. Fear and repressed desires create frustration and anger.

This emotion causes our body to contract and to hold on to those feelings that cause more tension in our bodies and minds. Desire is what motivates our actions. Even if those actions do not happen, we can use fantasy as a tool to go deep into that desire and embrace the pleasurable sensations that occur in our body.

If you don't have a yes to that fantasy, create a safe space on your own where you can go deep into your imagination, create the scenario and feel your body sensations, the wellness it creates, embrace that pleasure and this will dissolve the need to fulfill that desire. At the end what we love about desire is how it makes us feel.